Thursday, April 30, 2009
In Favor of Favors....Not So Much
I've been to weddings with and without favors. The weddings that had favors were edible favors. A nice touch but who really needs the added sugar, calories and fat? And unless you go with something really pricey, like handmade candies or cookies, to me edible favors say this "I was too cheap to get anything else and didn't want to put any thought into what I should give as favors." If you wouldn't have a use for the favor or wouldn't want the favor in your home what on earth makes you think your guests would?? Now, the weddings I've been to that didn't have favors...I never even noticed there weren't favors! So why oh why would you spend all that extra money?? Please see exhibits A and B:
Are favors a nice touch? Absolutely. When a lot of thought is put into them and they are something that is useful and practical and you have the budget for them go for it!
However, on my shoe string budget I don't have the extra cash to be able to do favors. When you're talking about inviting 250 guests even a favor at a buck a piece is too much. Had I been able to splurge and do favors I would have. Want to know what I was thinking of giving? Personalized pens that were in our wedding colors with a message from us thanking our guests for celebrating with us. Yeah you read right, pens. Everyone always needs another pen. I know in my house when I need one I can't find one. Pens are so incredibly practical and I knew they would without a doubt be put to use! And if you do your research you can find them for less than $0.75 a piece! What a steal right? As much as I'd like to be able to carry out that idea there are lots of other things that money can go towards.
Oh and let me quickly address the issue of bubbles being considered favors. In my opinion, they are not favors. I will have bubbles for my guests to use while we "get away" (more on them later) but I do not consider them a favor. I bought them because that's what I wanted when it was time to leave for the honeymoon. And what use would my guests have for bubbles as "favors"? None. Unless they have little children, then they can be used for entertainment purposes. lol
So to sum all this up, I will not be having favors for my guests. I will have bubbles but they are not favors. :)
What's your take on favors? What about the always asked question about bubbles being the favor?
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
The Dress
Years ago (way before I met my Mr.) I somehow discover Maggie Sottero and her incredible wedding dress designs. I loved so many of her dresses. The attention to detail was just incredible. So from that moment on, I knew I wanted a Maggie dress.
And a Maggie dress I got! I was soo excited! I had a very good idea of what I wanted in a dress and let me tell you that is a HUGE help not only to you but to your consultant as well. Before you go in looking for a dress, do your research and know at least some of what you want. I had been eying a few dresses from her website and had those in mind to try on. I was however really surprised and disappointed that the dresses they had in specifically for the trunk show were a size 6. For real? I mean come on now. To me it seems like a bigger size would be better for the one and only sample. Smaller girls can be "clipped" into the dress bigger girls are just out of luck. So a number of the dresses I would have liked to try on I couldn't. You see, I am NO size 6 or ever close to a size six. I've got curves baby! lol
I think I tried on a total of like 6 or 7 dresses. Not too many in my opinion. The first one I tried on is ultimately the one I bought. I wasn't too sure about it at first I mean I liked it but I just wasn't head over heels for it. However, I liked it enough to keep in the "try again" pile. I tried on the other dresses and found one that I really loved and even though it was "the one" at first. But I still had the first dress to try on again. After I put it on for the second time and went out to the big mirrors I fell in love. It was wayyy more flattering than the other dress was. The longer I had it on the more I loved it and the more I didn't want to take it off! lol It has everything I've ever wanted in a wedding dress; all over lace, embroidery, beading, crystals and a corset back. It's a strapless dress which I had originally wanted to stay away from but after trying on a number of neckline styles, strapless looked the best on me.
Here's the description of my dress from the website: "One-piece, strapless semi-fitted A-line corset back gown. Romantic lace over satin gown featuring a gentle side pleated detailing. The skirt lace overlay falls in a delicate circular shape providing fullness at the hem." Let me tell you, that description doesn't begin to do it justice! The color is called Ivory/Pewter (which looked better with my skin tone than white). The Pewter color is found on the detailed embroidery and is a silver metallic thread. Here are two teaser pictures of my dress. The first one shows the all over lace detail and the second shows the beading work and embroidery. I don't think they'll give away too much if my Mr. happens upon this blog. You'll have to wait for the full pictures till after the wedding! :)
Did you find the dress of your dreams the first time you went to try dresses on or did it take several times before you found "the one"?
Tuesday, April 28, 2009
Floral Ideas and Inspiration Part 2
Reception floral ideas and inspiration! I'm super excited that I've finally committed to a centerpiece design. A little more about that in "Good News and a Few Updates". I cannot wait until my supplies come in and I can actually see if what I have in mind works. I'm going to give you a teaser and show you my inspiration photo for the centerpieces but will leave you hanging on the details until I can try making one. The inspiration...
Well, I think that's about it for now.
What are your floral decor ideas for your ceremony and reception sites? Did you utilize the internet to get your inspiration?
Keep an eye out for more details in the days to come!
Floral Ideas and Inspiration Part 1
First off I will share my bouquet inspiration. I've always known I would want a purple bouquet but wasn't sure which flowers it would include until I saw the following photo over at The Brides Cafe check it out:
Silk flowers have come a longgggg way from what they used to be. If you know where to look, you can find silks that look just like real flowers and sometimes feel just like them. Mom and I are venturing out to Knoxville on Friday after work to hit Michael's and Hobby Lobby in the hopes that we'll be able to get some ideas for the attendants bouquets once we can actually see the silks in person. So this is kind of what I have in mind for them with the possibility of some added purple, White Spider Mums:
Corsages....will be hand made with a combination of silk and real preserved flowers. More on the design of those later.
Ok this is getting long so I'll go into the ceremony and reception floral inspiration and ideas next.
Good News and a Few Updates
In other news...my mom and I have an appointment on Thursday evening with Emily Herrod the owner of the Bed & Breakfast where the wedding and reception will be held. It will be a short meeting though because she will be getting ready to go out of town for almost a month! Once she gets back in town at the end of May, we'll have a more lengthy and detailed meeting with her.
I've had my eye on several Mori Lee "Affairs" Bridesmaid dresses for sometime now. At the end of May, I will know for sure if the designs I've been eying will still be available! Once I find out which dresses are still available and can share that info with my attendants, I will be able to share them with you!
I placed a HUGE order with Save-on-crafts.com over the weekend and cannot wait until it comes in! With the help of my mom and hours spent surfing the net I finally have my reception centerpieces figured out! I had been very undecided about what I wanted until this past weekend. All the centerpieces will be DIY projects and I cannot wait to share my vision and then process with you!
Over the weekend, I also ordered our cake topper! Once it comes in I will share that with you all as well!
Are you waiting for a big order to come in so you can get started with a DIY project?
Up next: my floral inspiration.
Monday, April 27, 2009
More purple and more sparkles!
Goregous no? It has everything I wanted in a clutch; it's purple, rhinestones, shoulder strap, larger size but not too big and opens wide. And the best part...including shipping from Hong Kong, it was only $21.08!!! Score!
Now on to the sparkly item I want to share with you. I had been on the search for a vintage rhinestone brooch to use on my bouquet. And ladies let me tell you, Etsy is the place to look! There are tons of beautiful brooches at great prices so if you're on the hunt for one be sure to check there! As you might guess, I found mine on Etsy from seller Cottage Antiques. Here it is:
Friday, April 24, 2009
Hair Bling
One day while scouring Etsy I came across this beauty:
Once I had it in hand and had my veil also I soon discovered that it was in fact too short and didn't look right. But I knew when I bought it that I would be taking that chance. I e-mailed the seller to ask what kind of glue she used to put it together and explained that I was going to have to get creative and use the earrings on another longer comb. I was a little apprehensive about removing the earrings from the comb because I didn't want to damage them in the process. However, they were pretty easy to get off.
I was now on the search of more vintage rhinestone jewelry to see if I could find some pieces to extend the existing design. I started my search in my very own collection. When I was little, my Grandma gave me almost all of her costume jewelry...which included several pairs of rhinestone earrings and a few rhinestone necklaces. To my astonishment I had a pair of earrings that went perfectly with the earrings from the Etsy comb! I was so happy! Now the hard part. How to make a new longer comb, use the same design that the Etsy seller had come up with, incorporate the "new" earrings and make it stable and strong. Unfortunately, I didn't think to get pictures of the earrings from my Grandma before hand or pictures of the DIY process. However, here is a step by step guide of what I did:
-I ran into WalGreens after work one day and they had hair combs on clearance 2 for $2 so I bought two packs. They were black wire combs like they used to make years ago. They weren't the right length but I was confident that I could somehow combine two combs to get the length I needed. My mom who is also very crafty helped me with that part and actually unwound the wire on one of the combs to make one comb and then re-did the wiring. It came out to be the perfect length!
-After carefully working the existing earrings off the comb I was able to remove them without harm. I had to take the earrings from my Grandma apart to be able to work them into the design but that was fine by me. However, I was having a hard time trying to visualize the design layout over the new comb I because the earrings kept sliding off due to the fact that the comb is curved. To solve this problem and to make sure I would be able to get them glued in the right place and also to add some stability I did the following:
-I sewed the earrings onto some thin black fabric using clear nylon thread so it wouldn't be seen. This allowed me to get the design layout just as I wanted it without having to worry about gluing pieces in the wrong place or have them slide out of place once glued on the comb.
-Once I had everything sewed in place, I took some Judi Kins Diamond Glaze (Water based dimensional adhesive) that I had on had from some glass pendants I had made. I brushed it on the back of the fabric knowing that in doing so it would cause the fabric to stiffen (it dries clear). This also served as fray check so I could trim the black fabric down so it wouldn't show.
-Next I trimmed all the way around the piece to remove the excess black fabric. That was a little hard because of the angles and curves and because I had to be really careful not to cut any of the threads on the back that hold the earrings to the fabric.
-Then I decided to glue the whole piece onto another piece of black fabric to stabilize it even more. Before I did the gluing though I brushed Judi Kins Diamond Glaze onto the new piece of fabric so that it would be stiff before I began gluing. Once glued (used a hot glue gun) and dried, I again set out to trimming the access fabric.
-Once that was all done it was time to glue the whole piece onto the comb. I used a hot glue gun to secure the design piece to the comb. And then added a strip of Grosgrain black ribbon over the glue line so nothing could get caught in my hair.
The earrings that came on the comb I purchased from the Etsy seller are in the same general area on my new comb as they were on the one I originally purchased. I added pieces of the earrings from my Grandma to each end to extend the design and also added a piece to the middle to create a "tiara" like effect so that it would have a little more height to it and because it looked like something was missing there. Here's the finished product (forgot to get pictures of it in place with the veil but you can visualize):
The below picture shows the earrings from the Etsy seller and pieces of the earrings from my Grandma. Sorry it's crappy quality, I'm too poor to have Photoshop.
So what do you think? I LOVE how it came out!! Going into this DIY, I had no idea that I would end up with such great results!
Were you stunned by the results of a DIY project you attempted?
Thursday, April 23, 2009
Pop of Purple
I started my shoe idea gathering/hunting early because I knew it would be especially hard for me to find shoes for the wedding. I really wanted to find some purple low (kitten) heels! I searched high and low with no luck. I found plenty of purple heels however they were what I like to call....."stripper heels". You know the ones I'm talking about, they have a heel that's 4" or taller and look something like these:
My days long search of the internet left me with no options for purple heels with a low/kitten heel. I was so sad and had finally come to terms with the fact that I was going to have to settle for the traditional ivory shoes (my dress is ivory). Or go for a dyeable pair and take my chances with that. Do I risk paying $$$ for a pair of shoes and then more $$$ to have them dyed? What if the color isn't right? Then I'm stuck with a pair of shoes I can't even wear and out all that money!
I gave up on my quest for low/kitten purple heels. Then while browsing a blog on weddingbee.com (and forgive me that I don't remember whose it was) I came across a post about another soon to be brides search for purple heels. She had some stunning ideas but none that I would be able to pull off. While reading the comments on that post I came across a comment from yet another soon to be bride who had found her perfect purple heels. The picture had me speechless! The heels looked just like what I had been looking for! I quickly went to her blog and asked her where she found them. She got back to me soon after and informed me they were from Nordstrom and sent me a link!
Could it be? Could these maybe be the heels I'd been searching for!? Ohmygosh....YES! Well as close as I was ever going to get! So without keeping you hanging any longer, here they are (or one is anyways):
Are you going for a pop of color under your dress or sticking with the traditional white or ivory shoes?
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
Road Block...err Detour
A few weeks ago my boss informed me that the company would no longer be paying for my health insurance. They had been paying it 100% to the tune of $303.00 a month. I was so thankful that they were covering it for me. Because they had been covering that cost I was able to save about $400.00 a month for wedding costs. I was so thrilled that I would be able to cover the entire cost of the wedding without going into debt! I figured that if I saved $400 every month for 14 months that I would have $6,000.00 come the wedding. Well, obviously I wouldn't have it but I would have been able to keep that money available for when I needed to purchase something.
Anyways, now because my company is no longer covering ANY percentage of my insurance I'm unable to save $$. And to top it all off, they had to get a new policy and it's more expensive than what they were paying. I'm dishing out just under $350 a month for health insurance now. I was sooo frustrated, upset and angry when I initially found out. I've now simmered down about it. lol I know the Lord is going to work it all out and provide what I need. And if I have to put stuff on credit I guess it isn't the end of the world....right?
I've still got to draw up a new personal budget so I can see if I'm able to save at least a small amount each month. Because lets face it, a little is better than nothing at all! That way if I have to take the credit route I can make the minimum payments with no problem. So we'll see what ends up happening.
What road blocks/detours/snags have you come across in your wedding planning?
Monday, April 20, 2009
Our Wedding Date, Photographer and Location!
We will be getting married on Saturday May 1st, 2010!
Our photographers will be the the incredible Hope team. A husband and wife who do the MOST AMAZING wedding photography I've ever seen. While we haven't met yet, picked an investment (package), or signed papers, they have us penciled in and we will be getting together to meet within the next few weeks. They just opened a new Gallery in Knoxville and are still waiting for a few of their new albums to come in. Once they're in, we'll set up an appointment! I cannot wait to meet them! I already love them even though I only know them through their blog, website and emails and I know that love will grow once we've officially met in person! Please be sure to check them out at hope-photo.com and hope-blog.com. Here are just a few of the millions of reasons why I cannot wait for them to be our photographers!
We will be getting married at Gremmy's Garden Bed & Breakfast. This gorgeous place is located just down the road from where I live. My mom used to work for Emily (better known as Gremmy) for several years while the B&B was in operation. I also helped every now and then and consider the Herrod's to be a huge blessing to our lives. While the B&B is currently closed to the public Emily has agreed to let me have our wedding and reception there! I am soooo thrilled and cannot wait to talk to her further about the details. I have my eye on the Rose Room to use as the Bridal Suite. It's always been my favorite room. It's just beautiful and it gets terrific natural light all day long! Their house and the property it sits on is stunning! Be sure to stop by her website and take a look at the pictures!
How We Met
Myspace. Yes, it's true...we met because of myspace and the Lord of course! He does work in very mysterious ways you know. :)
My first contact with him was on July 9th, 2008. I received a message that said:
" You have no clue who i am, and i have no clue who u are. I just want to tell you i'm astounded that you acknowledge Jesus on your profile. I don't even know you and it is comforting.
btw my name's charles"
I didn't respond. I had previously gotten messages along those same lines and when I would reply with a thank you I would then be sent a message saying something to the effect of "wanna hang out?", "wanna hookup?", "wanna meet me at ____?". So I decided not to reply because of that. The next morning when I got to work and got on myspace I was greeted with another message from him. For some reason I opened the message (I normally would have just deleted it because it was from some random guy I didn't know). But I opened it and this is what it said:
"hey ur friends with Lindsey? I think the world of her.
i just happened to notice her on ur profile"
Now to most people that wouldn't be significant at all. However to me it was. Lindsey is my best friend and has been for about ten years now. At the time she was my number 1 on my friends list. What made what he said significant? Lindsey's profile is private and her profile name wasn't her real name. So he HAD to know her in real life to know who she was. I decided to go take a look at his page and realized that he was listed as being right here in ______, TN. I then began looking at his pictures. He had some pictures from his house that I recognized but I couldn't figure out why. I later put two and two together and realized the pics looked familiar because I pass his house everyday on my way to and from work! lol What are the chances of that!? I couldn't believe it. We also had several mutual friends.
So from there we began messaging back and forth about anything and everything. Then myspace messaging turned into text messaging and then into long phone calls. I couldn't believe how much we had in common, how similar our morals were, how our religious beliefs were the same, etc. Eventually we both decided it was time to meet in person to see if we would get along as well as we had been on the phone.
The first time we went out was on July 26th. I met him at his house since it was centrally located to mine and to town. Then we went to dinner at Olive Garden, went bowling at the community center and then headed to Gatlinburg to walk around a bit and made our way to the new Wax Museum. It was an awesome night and I had a blast. After that night I had this feeling I couldn't shake that I would someday marry him. However, I kept that to myself. I wanted to make absolutely sure that it wasn't just my wanting to get married but was coming from the Lord before I shared it with anyone. Not to mention the fact that we had only been on one date so far! lol
August 5th was our second date and the first time we held hands. It was an amazing night. And then after we parted ways and we were texting we decided that we would now consider ourselves to be in a relationship. The next day we had our first kiss in his driveway. And the rest you could say is history. :)
Did you meet your love through myspace?
Up next...our wedding date, photographer and location!
More ring details...
As I mentioned in my last post, I designed my ring on bluenile.com. Because my center stone and engagement band were on a website I was anxiously keeping an eye on the stone to make sure someone else didn't buy it. I was sooo worried that someone would get that diamond!
My now fiance and I started dating near the end of July '08. Shortly thereafter, both of us knew we were destined to be together forever. In late September I sent him the link to the loose diamond center stone I had found and the engagement band I wanted. Shortly thereafter, the loose diamond was listed as "no longer available" on the website. I was freaking out. I knew there was no way that Charles would have already purchased the stone. It was too soon, we'd only just discussed it. I was terrified that someone else bought the perfect diamond that I had fallen in love with. Eventually, he told me he bought it so I would stop freaking out. I was so relieved!
Even though I knew he had the diamond I had no way of knowing if he had also bought the engagement band. And let me tell you, he wouldn't tell me if he did or not. Much to my disappointment. lol But, I knew he had the diamond and for a very short period of time that was enough. I was so incredibly excited and couldn't believe he'd already bought the diamond!
Now the longggg wait began for me. It was torture. And let me tell you, he knew what he was doing to me. I sort of had some idea of when I would get it. Well, at least a date I would have it by. See, my little brother was getting married on April 18th (now married! yay Daniel & Jess!) and I told Charles I needed my ring before then. I was having a hard time dealing with the fact that my little bro was getting married before me (just being honest). And there were also some hard family things I was going to have to be forced to deal with come my brother's wedding. I asked Charles to please let me have my ring before my brother's wedding because I knew it would help me get through things. (And let me just say it did!) He agreed and my long wait ensued.
I waited and waited, and WAITED. He informed me that I would not receive my ring when I would expect it. So I could count out my birthday (Nov. 24th), Christmas, New Years and Valentines Day too. In early February, we made a trip to Saint Simon's Island, GA to visit his older sister and I thought for sure that he would pop the question then. But no. Before we left he informed me that there was a mishap with my ring when he went and got it out of the safety deposit box. I won't go into the details because I know he felt horrible about it but it was an accident and I have my ring now so no worries.
I will not lie, I probably wasn't the nicest person to him at times because the lust for my ring was becoming stronger and stronger with every day that passed without it on my finger (sorry baby!). I think that because I asked to have it before a certain date (even though he agreed my reasons were valid) that he tortured me even more and thus waited until the 11th hour before he proposed.
But I can honestly say that it was all PERFECT. Waiting on the timing of the Lord is so rewarding! So there you have it, a little glimpse into the journey of getting my ring!
How long did you have to wait to get your ring?
My Engagement Ring!
My center diamond and band are from Blue Nile. I highly recommend them! I picked out the center diamond and band myself and am so glad I did, I LOVE my ring!
All of the following pictures were taken by me. :)
Click on the pictures for a larger view.
Band Details: Pavé-Set Diamond Cathedral Ring in 18k Yellow Gold. This 18k gold setting is accented with 18 pavé-set diamonds, elegantly highlighting the center diamond. 1/5 carat total diamond weight (for the band).
Total carat weight for the ring is 0.61. There is a matching band that I will have as my wedding band that has 18 pavé-set diamonds.
Sunday, April 19, 2009
Well, It's Official!
I’M ENGAGED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It happened Thursday night around 10:45. Charles came by my house after he got off work. I didn’t know it was him though at first. Our dogs started barking like crazy as if someone was here but my mom kept telling me no one was. I wasn’t all that worried about it though because I was busy rolling up the silverware for my brother’s rehearsal dinner for Friday night. Next thing I know the door bell rings. When mom didn’t make a move to go see who it was I had a really strong feeling it was him.
We said hi and hugged and kissed and I asked him what he was doing at the house. He said he had something to show me on his computer. It was a slide show movie that he had put together with pictures of us throughout our relationship, including our first date. It also included slides that said I would be getting dinner at Olive Garden, bowling at the Community Center and a trip to the Wax Museum in Gatlinburg (a recreation of our first date). At the end some slides came up that said “will you marry me?”, he got down on one knee and pulled out my ring. OMG I was freaking out inside because it was so beautiful. Of course I said yes…..duh! lol
My hope for a date was the 8th of May, 2010. However I realized that's the weekend of Mother's Day so I'm hoping for the 1st now. But it’s going to depend on the availability of the photographer I’m wanting to use. He is available for the 8th and I sent him another e-mail asking him about the 1st today and hope to hear back from him soon. Be sure to check out their INCREDIBLE work at www.hope-photo.com.
So now I can finally start sharing all my ideas and DIY projects for my wedding! But where oh where to start???? lol If you've read my blog before you know I've already found my dress and expect it to be in sometime in late June or early July. I already have my veil as well. I've removed all my previous posts so I could start from the beginning. And I've had to take the pictures of me in my dress off as well because this will now be a public blog and I don't want Charles to see the pics. So those of you that saw the pictures you're lucky because I won't be posting them again.
Anyways, that's it for right now. Stay tuned for pictures of my engagement ring and so much more!